Why is it that we find it easier to blame outside sources for negative experiences that we have had, and focus on how "they" made us feel. We focus on how "they" controlled that outcome or that situation. We focus on how mad, angry, and upset we are with "them". We spend weeks, months, and sometimes years carrying buckets of painful emotions around with us hoping that outside person or source will make us feel better about the situation or experience. "They" should make the changes and help fix us. What if I told you that a simple solution could help you begin the healing process? What if I told you you can start the process of emptying that annoying bucket of pain by identifying your role in the situations, and why holding yourself accountable can assist you in mental freedom..
Self Accountability Relieves You Of Regrets
I'm sure we've all experienced some situations when we didn't make the best decisions. We wanted a particular outcome to occur, and it didn't. These situations can range from staying in an abusive relationship too long, staying with a company too long, moving across the country for love and the relationship not working out, etc., etc. I can go on, but I'm sure you get the point. When the situation was over, we felt a variety of emotions like anger, disappointment, regret, sadness, or even depression. We wished we could turn back the clock and start again, but it's not possible.
From my personal experiences in these types of situations, I've found that the more angry or disappointed I became with my decisions, the worst I felt. The more regrets I had, the deeper into negative emotions I fell. Through my experiences what gave me comfort and allowed me to feel better was self accountability. When I began shifting my thought process from "blaming" myself and others, to owning my decisions and my role throughout the experience I began to let go of my regrets. It was easier to reflect on that situation and identify the lessons I needed to learn. I was able to smile knowing that my intentions were good and the experience was just a part of my journey.
I'm sure we've all experienced some situations when we didn't make the best decisions. We wanted a particular outcome to occur, and it didn't. These situations can range from staying in an abusive relationship too long, staying with a company too long, moving across the country for love and the relationship not working out, etc., etc. I can go on, but I'm sure you get the point. When the situation was over, we felt a variety of emotions like anger, disappointment, regret, sadness, or even depression. We wished we could turn back the clock and start again, but it's not possible.
From my personal experiences in these types of situations, I've found that the more angry or disappointed I became with my decisions, the worst I felt. The more regrets I had, the deeper into negative emotions I fell. Through my experiences what gave me comfort and allowed me to feel better was self accountability. When I began shifting my thought process from "blaming" myself and others, to owning my decisions and my role throughout the experience I began to let go of my regrets. It was easier to reflect on that situation and identify the lessons I needed to learn. I was able to smile knowing that my intentions were good and the experience was just a part of my journey.
Self Accountability Helps You Move On
If you truly want to move on from a broken heart or painful situation self accountability will help you do so. Being stuck in the past never helped anyone, especially when you feel sadness or resentment as part of the memories. A lot of times we want an apology from a person, or we wanted that person to change, or we wanted that company to give us a raise or promotion. We wanted the other source to help us feel better. We subconsciously believe that if we get the relief from the source that made us feel bad, we can then move on. Once you realize you need to forgive yourself and own your decisions, you'd be able to not only move on, but move on faster.
If you truly want to move on from a broken heart or painful situation self accountability will help you do so. Being stuck in the past never helped anyone, especially when you feel sadness or resentment as part of the memories. A lot of times we want an apology from a person, or we wanted that person to change, or we wanted that company to give us a raise or promotion. We wanted the other source to help us feel better. We subconsciously believe that if we get the relief from the source that made us feel bad, we can then move on. Once you realize you need to forgive yourself and own your decisions, you'd be able to not only move on, but move on faster.
Self Accountability Allows You To Learn And Grow
An amazing benefit of self accountability is that you're able to learn and grow! If you don't hold yourself accountable there's a great chance you're missing out on many lessons. Not catching the lessons may lead to you recycling the same experiences and making the same decisions again. For example, I remember early in my career, I was disappointed that I wasn't promoted. I worked overnight for 6 years because it was a great schedule for my family at the time. I completed my Master's Degree during those years and believed I'd be promoted. It turned out the person that was promoted had more hands on experience. He was more knowledgeable about the job because he gained skills working during the day, that I didn't working overnight. I was initially upset. Once I identified that working overnights were impacting my growth with this company, I made adjustments. Instead of blaming the company, I took self accountability and learned from the experience. I make a conscious effort to look at situations from this same mindset. Although I'll usually be upset in the beginning, in the end I tend to view the situation from a "Self Accountability" perspective, and I continuously grow from each experience.
An amazing benefit of self accountability is that you're able to learn and grow! If you don't hold yourself accountable there's a great chance you're missing out on many lessons. Not catching the lessons may lead to you recycling the same experiences and making the same decisions again. For example, I remember early in my career, I was disappointed that I wasn't promoted. I worked overnight for 6 years because it was a great schedule for my family at the time. I completed my Master's Degree during those years and believed I'd be promoted. It turned out the person that was promoted had more hands on experience. He was more knowledgeable about the job because he gained skills working during the day, that I didn't working overnight. I was initially upset. Once I identified that working overnights were impacting my growth with this company, I made adjustments. Instead of blaming the company, I took self accountability and learned from the experience. I make a conscious effort to look at situations from this same mindset. Although I'll usually be upset in the beginning, in the end I tend to view the situation from a "Self Accountability" perspective, and I continuously grow from each experience.
Self Accountability Will Increase Your Confidence
When your focus on a situation is geared toward blame and regret, it's easier to feel insecure or diminish your character. You're asking yourself questions like: Why wasn't I good enough for him/her? Was I not good enough for that promotion? Why doesn't he/she respect me? Am I weak? Questions like these are most likely stemming from lack of self value. Remember, your self worth and value comes from within. So by continuing to wonder what that source outside of you felt about you, you'll feel worse. Start focusing on why you allowed that behavior/treatment and work on fixing it. Switch your thought process and ask questions that will help you grow. Self Accountability will help you to recognize that you made the decision, focus on building your confidence again, and affirm that you will not make those same decisions in the future.
I believe that it's easier to blame someone else for your decisions because it can be difficult to be honest with yourself at times. Looking at yourself in the mirror and owning your mistakes can be challenging. Through those challenges, I have found that Self Accountability has helped me grow and get past traumatic situations so much faster. Holding myself accountable has made me more conscious and aware of my decisions and has played an integral role in my overall evolution as a person. I have gained so much mental freedom by focusing on self accountability during my encounters. I recommend focusing on self accountability throughout your journey's and beginning the process of dumping that bucket of pain that's weighing you down.
Sending you all Love, Peace, and Light.
Sincerely,
Carrie P.
When your focus on a situation is geared toward blame and regret, it's easier to feel insecure or diminish your character. You're asking yourself questions like: Why wasn't I good enough for him/her? Was I not good enough for that promotion? Why doesn't he/she respect me? Am I weak? Questions like these are most likely stemming from lack of self value. Remember, your self worth and value comes from within. So by continuing to wonder what that source outside of you felt about you, you'll feel worse. Start focusing on why you allowed that behavior/treatment and work on fixing it. Switch your thought process and ask questions that will help you grow. Self Accountability will help you to recognize that you made the decision, focus on building your confidence again, and affirm that you will not make those same decisions in the future.
I believe that it's easier to blame someone else for your decisions because it can be difficult to be honest with yourself at times. Looking at yourself in the mirror and owning your mistakes can be challenging. Through those challenges, I have found that Self Accountability has helped me grow and get past traumatic situations so much faster. Holding myself accountable has made me more conscious and aware of my decisions and has played an integral role in my overall evolution as a person. I have gained so much mental freedom by focusing on self accountability during my encounters. I recommend focusing on self accountability throughout your journey's and beginning the process of dumping that bucket of pain that's weighing you down.
Sending you all Love, Peace, and Light.
Sincerely,
Carrie P.
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